If you are under a certain age, it is likely that funerals are not events that you frequent often. However, these are events that are very serious and your demeanor should reflect the mood of the funeral. It is hard to know how to act at funerals and they can often be very awkward for all of the guests. If you are attending a funeral at a venue like the Pace funeral home, here are some tips of etiquette that you should remember.
Sensitivity to Religious Views
If your friend or loved one was a very religious person, you should ask a family member or research his or her religious customs when it comes to death. If you try and side step a well-known custom, it could be very obvious and possibly offensive to some people. For example, some religions have a certain dress code that is considered customary and polite when you are going to a funeral. Some religions wear white, others wear black, and many do not have a dress code at all. Make sure you find out if this is something you should be worried about.
If in doubt, maintain a solemn demeanor throughout the event. Some people know that their funeral is coming and so they prepare an unorthodox funeral that is full of lighthearted music and jokes, but this is rare. Most of the survivors of the deceased person are going through a very hard time, so any jokes or loud laughing seems impolite and can be very hurtful to these people. It is best to look to the family of the deceased and follow their attitude about the funeral. If everyone is sharing funny stories about your loved one, feel free to chime in, but otherwise, have respect for the deceased’s memory.
It is also considered polite to talk to the family of the deceased and pay your respects. Offer to help with taking down the event or bring by food later. This is a very difficult time for family members so try to be helpful in any way that you can. If you have any questions about an upcoming funeral, you can contact a venue like the Pace funeral home.
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